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DO MARRIAGES FAIL?
marriage at Creation. Marriage is the
arrangement whereby one man and one woman
make a LIFE-LONG COMMITTMENT to each other.
Marriage was intended to provide a lifetime
of fulfillment and satisfaction to the
So, why so
much divorce? What happens after a period
of time when marriages fall apart? What
makes one partner no longer love his (or
her) companion? The following may answer
some of these questions.
is not there. It
is possible that a marriage without God
could succeed, but it highly unlikely.
Marriage is a three-fold dimension: spiritual,
physical and social. It actually is God
who joins the man and woman in marriage. Mark 10:9 What
therefore God hath joined together, let
not man put asunder. [KJV]
Marriage is a spiritual relationship,
with the man and woman living their lives
with God in their midst.
love is not there. "Falling
in love" and "being in love"
are two entirely different things. Falling
in love is glamorized by sex novels and
movies and feeds on excitement, which
totally distorts true love. Being in love
begins with a natural attraction between
a man and a woman, which matures into
truly caring for the other person, and
totally committing their life to him or
her. Ephesians 5:33 So again
I say, each man must love his wife as
he loves himself, and the wife must respect
her husband. [NLT] If people loved
each other as they loved themselves, and
respected each other, there wouldn’t be
is not there. If
a man and woman do not trust each other,
marriage doesn’t have much of a chance.
Envy and jealousy always end up in hateful
words and actions. If a man and woman
truly love each other, they will be trustworthy
in everything they do, not causing the
other to have any reason whatsoever to
criticize. 1 Corinthians 13:4 Love
is patient and kind. Love is not jealous
or boastful or proud. [NLT] Proverbs
27:4 Wrath is cruel, and anger
is outrageous; but who is able to stand
before envy? (KJV)
are far too selfish. Fallen
mankind has a very sinful nature. Self-interest,
self-satisfaction and self-gratification
are abounding. In other words: me, my
and mine, or me, me, me! If two people
live in marriage and they live only for
self, there will be conflict, MUCH conflict!
TRUE love, which is care, concern and
compassion for the other, willingly relinquishes
or renounces these selfish motives, and
instead, wants only happiness and contentment
for their spouse. Philippians 2:3 Don't be selfish; don't live to
make a good impression on others. Be humble,
thinking of others as better than yourself.
(NLT) If you have only the good of your
spouse in mind, your marriage will endure.
is NOT a 50-50 proposition. If
a person is not willing to give 100% of
themselves to a marriage commitment, divorce
will soon follow. Marriage isa TOTAL and
PERMANENT commitment, not just a partial,
temporary one. A person should be willing
to stay true to their spouse regardless
of the circumstances. Marital unfaithfulness
is the only Biblical reason for divorce
two shall be one. Ephesians
5:31-33 For this cause shall a
man leave his father and mother, and shall
be joined unto his wife, and they two
shall be one flesh.  This is a great
mystery: but I speak concerning Christ
and the church.  Nevertheless let
every one of you in particular so love
his wife even as himself; and the wife
see that she reverence her husband.
(KJV) The union of husband and wife should
unite two persons in such a way that what
affects one, also affects the other. Oneness
in marriage does not mean you lose your
personality, it means caring for your
spouse as you care for yourself. You learn
to anticipate or forsee his or her needs,
and you help the other person become all
he or she can be. You want and wish only
the best for your spouse.
that troubles will arise. No
two people are alike in every way. We
all are different, so we do not think
alike, and that brings friction at times.
The answer to a lot of marriage problems
is when you are wrong, ADMIT it. NO person
can be right all the time. And when you
are wrong, say "I’m sorry, I was
wrong." Some people absolutely will
not humble themselves and say "I’m
sorry." If you are wrong, you are
wrong! Admit it, and try not to do the
same thing again. Marriage has many problems,
and one of the worst ones is money. Most
often people try to live beyond their
means. Many expect to have what their
parents have as soon as they marry; when
their parents have struggled and worked
for years to get what they have. Credit
cards are one of the most horrendous evils
of our time. Many people do not have the
moral strength to resist buying something
when they have that card in their pocket,
and that can lead to debt beyond what
they ever considered, putting horrible
stress on their marriage. 1 Timothy
6:10 For the love of money is the
root of all evil: which while some coveted
after, they have erred from the faith,
and pierced themselves through with many
sorrows. (KJV) Coveting is a strong
desire to possess worldly things (Col.
3:5; Ephes. 5:5; Hebrews 13:5; 1 Tim.
6:9-10; Matthew 6:20). It is cold-hearted,
worldly greed. Don’t think: "If I
just had a little more, I’d be happy.
If I just had what they have, I’d be content."
Don't waste your time wishing you had
more stuff. THINGS can never make you
happy. Soon after you get it, you just
want more. Instead of being greedy, be
happy with what you have.
in marriage is not only finding the right
person; it’s being the right person.
in marriage is not a 50/50 proposition;
it’s giving 100% of yourself.
in marriage is treating your spouse as
you want him or her to treat you.
is what YOU make of it!
The Bible has the Answer!
Believe, What Does it Mean?
I Be Assured Of My Salvation?
I Trust God?
Do All Babies Go To Heaven?
Can I Stop Worrying?
God Not Listening?
Saved, Always Saved? OSAS
What To Do With It?
What Are Some Prophecies Being Fulfilled in Our Time?
Who Is Satan?
Do Bad Things Happen?
Do Marriages Fail?
Does God Seem So Far Away?
Does God Send People To Hell?
Is The Worst Sin To God?